Wedding Responsibilities of a Groom vs. Groomsmen

by Emma Miller of Vow to Be Chic

Let’s begin by saying although you are all waltzing down that white mile, there’s only one of you who’s tying the knot!

There are a wide variety of tasks and responsibilities afforded to grooms and their crew. The big day is just as memorable for both parties yet for different reasons. Your bros will no doubt celebrate the fact you have finally found someone who will put you on the straight and narrow.

Whereas grooms will be considering the future such as building a family and making a home with their cherished one. Although you will be sharing the love in the room, as Margaret Thatcher once declared this particular lady is not for turning.

And one major aspect is your buddies are not responsible for the overall planning of the wedding. All they need to do is look as sharp as a razor, turn up, sip cocktails and throw a few shapes on the floor.

This in contrast to the groom who tends to be somewhat involved in the organization of the big day. This ranges from finding a wedding venue to choosing the perfect groomsmen present.

Whatever the task entails, we have the lowdown on which key tasks are delegated to both groom and groomsmen.

Groom: The Ring

Sorry groomsmen, the only one who is saying I do is the groom.

Therefore, it is not up to your bros to buy a rock the size of the Grand Canyon. This specific responsibility falls solely upon the groom to ensure he well and truly puts a ring on it.

And if you are the last of the romantics, impress your bride with a stunning jewel that will be treasured just as much as your First Lady. Whether you opt to experience ring shopping together or go it alone, the man will be paying quite literally.

There are many hints and tips on how to choose the perfect wedding ring. From one-off jewelry stores to major brands such as Tiffany, diamonds are certainly a girl's best friend!

On the other hand, you need to factor in a wedding band which is an integral part of any ceremony. Why not consult a store where they offer expertise and knowledge in both engagement rings, wedding rings, and bands.

Fancy a band as big as The Beatles? Want to go for a more subtle appearance? Grooms can discuss all matters of bling in detail with a jeweler. A flashy ring could mean a far more subtle band whereas a simple rock might look better with an added touch of sparkle.

Groom: The Man Presents

Men, it’s about time to stand back and let the man of the moment do the hard work.

For you see, grooms need to show appreciation for their buds with a top-notch groomsmen gift. It has to be both thoughtful and robust that will last for many years to come. Perhaps your bro is a sports nerd or a cocktail fanatic?

Maybe there are some among your crew who love a stogie or are dedicated followers of fashion. Whatever their passion, spread your man love with inspiration here offering gift ideas or a dedicated gift guide from groomsmengiftsource.com.

Groomsmen: The Guests

Whilst the groom busies himself walking down the white mile, your groomsmen should be focused on numerous duties.

This includes taking care of the wedding guests. Like a synchronized swimming routine, everything has to run to perfection, making sure they are in the right place at the right time.

Your bros will be required to usher guests to their seats whilst keeping calm and carrying on. Meanwhile, they must be as sharp as a pencil when it comes to guiding guests to the reception answering queries such as transportation arrangements and venue directions.

In addition to this, your pals need to be on the ball when rounding up guests or close family for photos or group shots. They may even act as a meeter and greeter while ensuring the dance floor is filled as much as their shot glasses.

Groomsmen: The Roast

Now we ain't talking about a barbecue here folks.

One of the major responsibilities for groomsmen is, of course, giving the groom a good old roast. And that, of course, boils down to the speech. You can achieve this wedding feat in a variety of ways.

Attain the ultimate goal of giving the groom the once over thanks to different types of audiovisual materials such as overhead projectors and PowerPoint. Stir up embarrassing moments caught on camera to rival Dom Deluise or opt for more touching moments with an extra twist.

No doubt, a groom will have his best men firmly in place. And it is up to them to evoke memories old and new, good as well as bad to the applause of the crowd. Looking for ideas? Find some inspiration here or check out several online guides on how to deliver a perfect wedding speech.

Groomsmen: The Bridesmaids

Escorting the bridesmaids is another role that groomsmen may be responsible for. Like Mr. Darcey, be the perfect gentleman and lend a courteous hand to those bridesmaids down the aisle.

As you are already a big part of the proceedings, groomsmen can be just as involved with the main procession.

Groomsmen: The Bridal Car

Some might say this is tradition.

However, decorating the bridal vehicle when all is said and done is a nice touch for those best men. Get in on the act and your hands dirty with some retro tin cans and streamers or look up some innovative ways to decorate a bridal car.

Or they can always pimp that ride completely and send off the new Mr. and Mrs in an unforgettable style.

Emma Miller is founder of Vow to Be Chic, a premium concierge and fashion stylist information resource for all the amazing bridesmaids out there.